Missional Man Podcast
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Ep#010: Rob Wilkerson, Grace Identity

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Summary & Intro

rob wilkerson

Rob Wilkerson – Christ-follower, Grace-lover, husband (21 years), dad of 4 kids (3 sons, 1 daughter), frequent wrestler of kids (his own), blogger, thinker, consultant for business intelligence firm, swiss-army knife of skills, church leadership/pastor for 26 years, entrepreneur at heart, idea guy and lover of all things Nacho Libre and Napolean Dynamite.

Recap & Synopsis

Listen this week as my good friend Rob Wilkerson & I discuss finding your identity in the unconditional love and grace of God rather than our performance. Rob has a unique ability of being acutely aware of himself, and he communicates in a clear and transparent way his unique story of identity. I know you’ll be empowered, equipped and encouraged for the mission!

*The following are my favorite top quotes from Rob and I. Use them freely and widely, but please offer credit where credit is due. Thanks.

(Full show notes downloadable below)


Defining Grace Identity = that divine force from God that defines who we are based on His character and nature and love and not our own. John 1:9-17. (Jonathan)

Discovering grace is really more of a daily thing. Discovering how it drives our true identity is also a daily thing. (Rob)

We need our eyes to be enlightened so we can experientially know this stuff. (Ephesians 1)

You have an idea of your capacity, then you end up comparing it to this fake version, which you concoct as a collation of everybody else’s projection of their Christianity and capacity. You come away from theirs and think “hmm I must suck pretty bad.”

The crux of it: “hey, you only really need to care about what God thinks about you”. I know that’s true because that’s what God’s Word says. But yet in my daily life, I lived like Esau. I was so willing to trade…my birthright for a bowl of soup. He so quickly signed away his future for a bowl of soup. We live that way. We quickly sign away our inheritance from the Father for a bowl of soup. For me, it was Affirmation and Approval. I wanted to be liked, accepted, approved and affirmed by other people. I wanted people to like me.

God’s grace and forgiveness empowers my ability and desire to repent. (Jonathan)

THE KEY: Information does not lead to transformation. Revelation leads to transformation. If I believe that my identity in this world, is led or driven by something other than Jesus then how that works typically in America we fall into the trap of thinking “I need to learn more. Get another book. Go to workshop/conference/podcast/journal/blog.” We fall into this lie of believing, in order for my identity to get discovered or for me to get true peace and joy I just need to have a massive intake of more information.

The enemy knows that if he can inundate us with godly, Biblical information then we fall into the trap of thinking we just need more information. I began to mistake reading the Bible, books and study for actual fellowship with God.

When I see my 5,000 book library packed in banana boxes they are telling me, “Jesus isn’t here. He’s at the right hand of the Father. Go fellowship with Him.”

The Holy Spirit changes you, not the books you read.



Action Round (1 Take-away & 1 Action-Item)

1 TA (One take-away for YOU to think about)

Every man should watch Nacho Libre. The whole movie is a hilarious rendition of identity. A monk who has these desires to be a wrestler. Nacho has a moment of realization where he comes to grips with what really matters: the orphans. It’s a great picture of a crisis moment that every man has got to come to and not run away from. Be willing to hear from God as long as it takes. True identity in Jesus.

1 AI (One action-item for YOU to go do.)

Go watch Nacho Libre with your family.


Ask yourself, “what am I really focusing on? My job, performance, past etc.? If its necessary, would you bring about a crisis or event that would force me to say what you say about me and not what others say about me.”


Rob on Facebook

Rob on Twitter

Rob’s blog


Favorite Resource on this Topic

Rob didn’t mention any favorite resources in this particular interview, so I’m listing some below that I know have impacted him recently from our conversations. I think he’ll agree.

Finding Church, Wayne Jacobsen

He Loves Me, Wayne Jacobsen


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